New Blog Post: Existing As I Am

"As someone who has spent their entire life proving the doubters wrong with regard to disability, I am not surprised at the way things are going."

https://stardustrohrig.com/2025/02/27/existing-as-i-am/

#Disability
#LGBTQIA+
#AroAce
#Agender

I think this is from Finn Longman is worth reading re history, sexualities and specifically asexuality and "friendship".

Mocking the old school historians' adage of "clearly they were just friends" has become common but... sometimes they actually were, sometimes there's no "just" about friendship, and to understand past people we should make earnest attempts to broaden our view of what relationships can look like.

https://finnlongman.com/no-platonic-explanation/

"Oh the irony: Aros & Aces know more about attraction" @heckin.unicorn (Instagram)

RE: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:kv7sv4lynbv5s6gdhn5r5vcw/post/3licdvijw4s2u

Shout out to my fellow #Aromantic and #AroAce folks on this day for absolutely no reason whatsoever.

«On subit une pression permanente» : aromantiques et asexuels en ont ras le cœur de la Saint-Valentin.

La fête commerciale de l’amour romantique approche, et avec elle s’intensifient les pesantes injonctions à nouer des relations sentimentales et sexuelles normées, qui ne conviennent pourtant pas à tous.

(abo ou bypass paywall clean) #AroAce #Aro #Ace
https://www.liberation.fr/lifestyle/intimites/on-subit-une-pression-permanente-aromantiques-et-asexuels-en-ont-ras-le-coeur-de-la-saint-valentin-20250212_IGCQFUK2FBEOPORFECMCBRPUIM/

Hello fellow aro/ace people! After coming to the realization, I've been more inclined to notice just how much music is about sex and love.
I just want to preface by saying that I have nothing against a song being about that and I think it's good that artists write about things dear to them. I still enjoy a good deal of love songs for many reasons.
What has happened though, is that after realizing that people genuinely feel what they sing (albeit maybe exagerated), which I was previously oblivious to, I feel like there's not as much music catered to my experience, I guess?
What I'm looking for is song recommendations for songs about other joys/aspects in life, maybe about really good friendships, or other aroace bangers?

Boosts welcome!

hi i'm taalith or just tay 4 short
i'm a headmate of @varimbehphen but i have way diff interests an stuff
she calls me her sister an that kinda tracks cuz she acts like an annoying older sis
i like black comedy (heathers is prolly my fave movie) and horror (but i dun get 2 watch much cuz vee is a wuss about it)
i tend 2 be kinda quiet an keep 2 myself alot cuz i get overstimulated ez
i dun like touch unless it's some1 i rly know well an trust an even then its situational
i'm ace an prolly aro 2
neway i wanted 2 try this cuz i miss talking 2 ppl i dun live inside
#introduction #plural #aroace

Hello, caneandable.social! I'm Lanie, a 33-year-old #Christian woman from Pipe Creek, TX. I'm #aroace, #TotallyBlind, #ActuallyAutistic, and living with multiple #ChronicIllnesses. I've just moved over from tweesecake.social, so I'm excited to meet new people and reconnect with familiar faces!

A bit about me:
- I live with my mom and stepdad, who are my caregivers
- I have a Miniature Pinscher named Squeaker
- Currently studying programming on freeCodeCamp.org and codecademy.com and Braille proofreading through the NFB
- I work as a usability tester and aspire to become an #accessibility consultant
- My goal is to create a nonprofit for people with multiple #disabilities

My interests include:
- #Gaming (especially accessible games like incremental/idle games, word games, puzzles, RPGs, roguelikes, and MUDs)
- #Technology and #Cybersecurity
- #RareDiseases and #DisabilityRights
- Reading (sci-fi, fantasy, thrillers, mysteries, and nonfiction)
- Swimming
- Gardening (planning to start soon!)

I'm passionate about #accessibility and creating a more inclusive digital world. I run online groups for people with multiple disabilities and am active in the #DisabilityCommunity.

Some of my #health conditions include occipital neuralgia, intracranial hypertension, Empty Sella Syndrome, fibromyalgia, hidradenitis suppurativa, GERD, gastroparesis, IBS, sleep apnea, migraines, and non-24-hour sleep-wake disorder.

I use various devices to navigate the digital world, including a Windows computer, iPhone, Android tablet, Fire TV, Echo Dot, Apple Watch, wireless headphones, and a Braille display. #AssistiveTechnology

I'm always eager to connect with others who share similar experiences or interests. Feel free to reach out, especially if you're into #AccessibleTech, #DisabilityAdvocacy, or if you just want to chat about books, games, or life with multiple disabilities!

It's Ace week!

And I have a request for all allies: Please reflect on the following questions:

Disclaimer 1: I'm probably not going to include everyone with the words I use, but please let me know, so I can edit and learn.

Disclaimer 2: I'm also going to use language that lets you know what I assume is the answer to a former question. But all answers are true and valid. Please don't feel pressured or judged by my words. Some of the questions are simply void depending on your answers before.

1. Do you prioritize your romantic or sexual relationships/constellations/encounters/interests over your friendships?
Do you for example spend more time, money and energy on people who are not or you don't want to be "just friends"? Do you give more love to them? More attention? Would you rather stop everything your doing and travel to the middle of nowhere because one of them wants to see you right now, compared to a friend? Do you think your friends initiate contact more often then you and spend more effort in keeping the friendship going whenever you have people in your life you want to be with romantically or sexually?

2. Do the people you have romantic and/or sexual feelings for deserve the extra attention, time and affection? Do they treat you better than your friends? Is it easier with them or if not, do they give you something your friends can't to make it worth it? Are encounters with them better for you and your (psychological) health than encounters with your friends? Who do you think is more sore or jealous if you spend more time with someone else? Does that mean the other is feeling good about being second best?

3. Do you think society as a whole values romance and sexuality more than platonic love? Do you think that's justified? Do you think that the words we use cement those societal differences (e.g. phrases like "I want >more than< friendship")? Do you know a lot of movies or TV shows where a friendship is the main theme like a romance is in romance movies?

4. Do you think aro/ace people might be lonely and feel left out in such a society (not to say that aro/ace people can't be in romantic or sexual relationships/constellations and that friendship is the only format availible to all aro/ace people)? Do you think some of your friends that are single and not dating (right now) long to spend more (quality) time with you? Do you think some of your friends might like to tag along when your doing something (depending on the activity) with a person or persons in the romance/sex-category? Do you know or think that some of your friends are aro/ace?

5. Have you ever had a platonic crush? Do you know what queerplatonic means? Do you think you could handle it well when a friend has queerplatonic feelings for you that you don't reciprocate? Would it be the same or different than unreciprocated romantic/sexual feelings? Do you think you could be a qpp/bff to an aro/ace person while also being in a romantic/sexual partnership/constellation? Do you think the other person/people in the partnership/constellation would be okay with that? Would you prefer if they were?

I encourage you to look up any words you don't know and/or ask me about them. Many words don't mean the same to everyone and I can only give you my definition. But please don't ask randomized misinformation machines.

me: *reads a story*

me: i love these characters! They are so complex and interesting and neat and magical!

my asexuality/aromanticism: i will make sure you *never* understand what truly motivates any of those characters

me: k..

#Asexual
#Aromantic
#AsexualProblems
#AroAce
#LGBT
#LGBTQIA

Being asexual and aromantic (and certainly being aplatonic doesn't help) in an allo world feels like everyone else hangs out together in one giant DND game and has a total blast, and I'm never told when the games are.

#Asexual
#Aromantic
#AsexualProblems
#AroAce
#LGBT
#LGBTQIA

When u reading a story about demons and their various attractions and their haunts and heartbroken pasts and you realize they're more normie than you are

#Asexual
#Aromantic
#AsexualProblems
#AroAce
#LGBT
#LGBTQIA

tinha feito introdução na minha conta que só posto em inglês (@nate@cooltrans.men) então vou fazer aqui também!

olá, sou um autista gaúcho ​​ ​​ ​​ (ele/dele) quase perto dos 30, eu falo de tudo, de personagem fictício à geopolítica, culpem meu cérebro por coisas assim acontecerem do nada.
capivarinha.club é uma instância sharkey nova pt-br, quando @piuvas abrir vai ser sucesso.
espero que esse post federe até chegar no acre, tenho fé viu.


​​ #intro #introduction #introdução #brasil #brazil #trans #aroace #actuallyautistic

Not much time left to #QueerYourBookshelf! Make sure you head to QueerYourBookshelf to find over 400 queer books, all priced at $0.99 USD or comparable prices internationally!

Get your #sapphicbooks, #achillenbooks, #bisexualbooks, #aroace books, #transbooks, and more!

Including mine, STARS AND SOIL, a #sapphic #epicfantasy book with tons of court intrigue, magic, and revolution!

thought i'd make a little #introduction post.

hi, i'm D3ad_un1corn ["dead unicorn"], or D3ad ["dead"], whichever you prefer.

i decided to join since i've recently gotten more into this whole fediverse thing.

some things about me:
- make music as a hobby (hopefully as a career one day)
- autistic and queer (aroace)
- anarchist/antifa/anticap
- he/him or they/them pronouns
- used to be really into hoyoverse games (raiden shogun is a huge comfort character still, so i might post about her a bit too much at times)

my pfp is a unicorn oc i designed in 2019, it used to be much more realistic, but the chibi version was drawn by vert_vivo on ig (they're a very talented artist and have made all my unicorn art ever since)

last but not least, i have a very cute cat :3

if there's anything else you'd like to know, feel free to ask! (i may take a moment to answer since my social anxiety gets bad even online lol)

tags: #autistic #musician #adhd #neurodivergent #aroace #europe #estonia #anime

This account had been sitting empty for a year as I didn't have the spoons to restart on the fedi after my old instance went down so this will be my #introduction
I am very lazy so it will just be a list of hashtags c:
#autism #adhd #audhd #neurodivergent #disabled
#trans #queer #asexual #aroace
#tech #FOSS #solarpunk #libre #gamingonlinux #linux #xmonad
#socialist #socialism #anarchist #anarchism #ecosocialism #ecosocialist #nonsectarian #politics #auspol
#plushies #rubiks #linguistics #purple

My #AroAce bracelet from @Tzipporah came in the mail today ~

This beautiful custom #AroAce pride bracelet is on its way to @ina

I've used the #Asexual label since high school, but never thought I could fall under the #Aromantic umbrella. However, it's something that's been on the back of my mind as I've always felt ambivalent towards romance in general.

Yesterday I started using the #AroAce label and so far it feels right :)