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Misanthropic Gender-Bender<p>I Guess I Just Came Out to My&nbsp;Mother</p><p>(as trans-curious, I guess) I didn't think they would react in a terrible way or anything, I was just concerned that they wouldn't understand. She actually got it, I think. <a href="https://theblower.au/tags/genderidentity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>genderidentity</span></a> <a href="https://theblower.au/tags/nonbinary" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>nonbinary</span></a> <a href="https://theblower.au/tags/trans" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>trans</span></a> <a href="https://theblower.au/tags/comingout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>comingout</span></a></p><p><a href="https://misanthropicgeek.wordpress.com/2025/03/30/i-guess-i-just-came-out-to-my-mother/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">misanthropicgeek.wordpress.com</span><span class="invisible">/2025/03/30/i-guess-i-just-came-out-to-my-mother/</span></a></p>
Prism & Pen<p>I eventually relented to Jack’s requests to out me. After all, wasn’t this my life’s intention now — living out and proud? Wasn’t this the example that I wanted to set for my children?<br><a href="https://buff.ly/dvTwfME" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="">buff.ly/dvTwfME</span><span class="invisible"></span></a></p><p><a href="https://stranger.social/tags/LGBTQ" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQ</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/Bisexual" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Bisexual</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/ComingOut" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ComingOut</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/Family" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Family</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/LivingProud" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LivingProud</span></a></p>
Shady Jon<p>If you like TJ Klune, Fredrik Backman, or are a gay man of *ahem* a certain age - or wondered what it was like to be gay and coming of age in the 70's, I highly recommend Matt Cain's The Secret Life of Albert Entwistle. </p><p>A delightful and solid read, bullying and bashing take a back seat to a story of everyday human courage and survival, with an ending that will make you smile. </p><p><a href="https://wandering.shop/tags/mattcain" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>mattcain</span></a> <a href="https://wandering.shop/tags/amreading" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>amreading</span></a> <a href="https://wandering.shop/tags/lgbtq" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>lgbtq</span></a> <a href="https://wandering.shop/tags/comingout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>comingout</span></a> <a href="https://wandering.shop/tags/bookstodon" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>bookstodon</span></a></p>
S.T. Veje<p>The worst part about coming out, it seems, is the imposter syndrome going into immediate overdrive and the sudden feeling that you need to "perform" to live up to everyone's expectations of you (or rather your own expectations of what their expectations are). </p><p>But the thing is, I'm still just me, just ... a little more open about who I am. Or trying. I haven't changed, and even if I'm always growing and developing as a person, it doesn't and won't happen overnight.</p><p><a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/ComingOut" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ComingOut</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/NonBinary" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>NonBinary</span></a></p>
S.T. Veje<p>I'm not a werewolf, or gay, but it's the full moon so ... I'm coming out anyway :flag_nonbinary: :rainbow_heart: </p><p><a href="https://www.stveje.dk/bg/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="">stveje.dk/bg/</span><span class="invisible"></span></a></p><p><a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/ComingOut" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ComingOut</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/NonBinary" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>NonBinary</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/Enby" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Enby</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/Genderfluid" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Genderfluid</span></a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/Trans" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Trans</span></a></p>
Janet Logan (she/her) 🏳️‍⚧️<p>16 years ago, I came out to close friends on Livejournal. I shared that post to my blog.</p><p><a href="https://janetannelogan.wordpress.com/2009/03/13/announcement/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">janetannelogan.wordpress.com/2</span><span class="invisible">009/03/13/announcement/</span></a></p><p><a href="https://mas.to/tags/trans" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>trans</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/transgender" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>transgender</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/TransJoy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>TransJoy</span></a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/ComingOut" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ComingOut</span></a></p>
Rick Bauer<p>Teaser Trailer for "The First Out", produced in 2012 for a fundraising campaign for a <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/movie" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>movie</span></a> about a <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/gay" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>gay</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/baseball" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>baseball</span></a> player. Check it out on <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/Wattpad" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Wattpad</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/lgbt" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>lgbt</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/baseballromance" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>baseballromance</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/civilrights" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>civilrights</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/humanrights" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>humanrights</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/gayathlete" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>gayathlete</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/lgbtqsports" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>lgbtqsports</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/gayfiction" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>gayfiction</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/lgbtqfiction" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>lgbtqfiction</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/comingout" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>comingout</span></a> <br><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://newsmast.community/@sport" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>sport</span></a></span> <br><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://newsmast.community/@ussport" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>ussport</span></a></span><br><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://lemmygrad.ml/c/lgbt" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>lgbt</span></a></span> <br><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://lemmygrad.ml/c/lgbt" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>lgbt</span></a></span> <br><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://sportsbots.xyz/users/MLB" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>MLB</span></a></span> <br><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://sportsbots.xyz/users/MLBNetwork" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>MLBNetwork</span></a></span> <br><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://sportsbots.xyz/users/MLBPipeline" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>MLBPipeline</span></a></span> <br><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://sportsbots.xyz/users/BaseballAmerica" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>BaseballAmerica</span></a></span><br><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://sportsbots.xyz/users/TalkinBaseball_" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>TalkinBaseball_</span></a></span> <a href="https://www.wattpad.com/1524574352-the-first-out-trailer" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">wattpad.com/1524574352-the-fir</span><span class="invisible">st-out-trailer</span></a></p>
Prism & Pen<p>She wouldn’t die, no not yet.<br>No place to dwell, no dimension,<br>except only one.<br>She found her home<br>in the masculine realm.<br>Not where she wanted, ...<br><a href="https://buff.ly/6sZAQNs" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="">buff.ly/6sZAQNs</span><span class="invisible"></span></a></p><p><a href="https://stranger.social/tags/LGBTQ" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQ</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/Poetry" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Poetry</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/QueerPoetry" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>QueerPoetry</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/Transgender" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Transgender</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/ComingOut" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ComingOut</span></a></p>
Prism & Pen<p>To be fair, my mother did tell me that she still loved me after I came out to her — but that was it. Every other reply to any message I sent her was curt, laced with an aura of disdain.<br><a href="https://buff.ly/3hbMt50" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="">buff.ly/3hbMt50</span><span class="invisible"></span></a></p><p><a href="https://stranger.social/tags/LGBTQ" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQ</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/ComingOut" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ComingOut</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/Bisexual" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Bisexual</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/Family" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Family</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/Identity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Identity</span></a></p>
Prism & Pen<p>Three cheers, maybe more with<br>closet doors open, or was it prison doors?</p><p>Freedom for him, freedom for her...<br><a href="https://buff.ly/2UtBeP9" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="">buff.ly/2UtBeP9</span><span class="invisible"></span></a></p><p><a href="https://stranger.social/tags/LGBTQ" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQ</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/Poetry" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Poetry</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/Transgender" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Transgender</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/ComingOut" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ComingOut</span></a></p>
Peter Kahn🏳️‍⚧️🇺🇦🇵🇸🏳️‍🌈<p>If another’s <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/comingOut" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>comingOut</span></a> seems courageous, what’s that say about fear that holds you back from living or expressing your inner truth?</p><p>Facing <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/hate" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>hate</span></a> seems like when I faced cancer. It’s bravery &amp; it doesn’t feel like it because what’s the alternative? In both cases, I exist &amp; plan to keep on existing.</p>
Prism & Pen<p>5.9% of Gen Z women identify as lesbian (compared to just 1.4% in the general population), and 7.7% of Gen Z men identify as bisexual. These numbers are notably higher than those of any previous generation.<br>Why is that? What’s driving this shift?<br><a href="https://buff.ly/3XplLwD" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="">buff.ly/3XplLwD</span><span class="invisible"></span></a></p><p><a href="https://stranger.social/tags/LGBTQ" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQ</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/Queer" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Queer</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/ComingOut" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ComingOut</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/GenZ" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>GenZ</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/Demographics" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Demographics</span></a></p>
Tadzio Mueller<p>Nachdem die Arschlöcher ihr <a href="https://climatejustice.social/tags/ComingOut" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ComingOut</span></a> hatten, sollen wir <a href="https://climatejustice.social/tags/Queers" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Queers</span></a> jetzt zurück in den Schrank. Damit alles seine Richtigkeit hat.</p><p>"Die <a href="https://climatejustice.social/tags/Budapest" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Budapest</span></a> Pride sollte 20245 an einem 'geschlossenen Ort' stattfinden und nicht wie bisher an einem öffentlichen Ort."</p><p>All our rights are up for grabs...<br><a href="https://www.theguardian.com/world/2025/feb/26/budapest-pride-should-be-moved-off-streets-says-hungarian-government-official" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">theguardian.com/world/2025/feb</span><span class="invisible">/26/budapest-pride-should-be-moved-off-streets-says-hungarian-government-official</span></a></p>
M sucht Antworten<p>Wenn ich mich hier über Geschlecht, Geschlechterfragen, Sexualität, Trans, Coming Out etc. etc. etc. austauschen möchte, welche Hashtags könnt ihr mir empfehlen?</p><p><a href="https://tirnanog.todon.de/tags/Trans" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Trans</span></a> <a href="https://tirnanog.todon.de/tags/Sexualit%C3%A4t" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Sexualität</span></a> <a href="https://tirnanog.todon.de/tags/nonbin%C3%A4r" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>nonbinär</span></a> <a href="https://tirnanog.todon.de/tags/Homosexualit%C3%A4t" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Homosexualität</span></a> <a href="https://tirnanog.todon.de/tags/ComingOut" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ComingOut</span></a></p>
Rainer Menkewww.rainermenke.de<br> <a href="https://pixelfed.social/discover/tags/mdfoffberlin?src=hash" class="u-url hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#mdfoffberlin</a> <a href="https://pixelfed.social/discover/tags/mdfoffberlin2025?src=hash" class="u-url hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#mdfoffberlin2025</a> <a href="https://pixelfed.social/discover/tags/comingout?src=hash" class="u-url hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#comingout</a> <a href="https://pixelfed.social/discover/tags/gaylife?src=hash" class="u-url hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#gaylife</a> <a href="https://pixelfed.social/discover/tags/gayhistory?src=hash" class="u-url hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#gayhistory</a> <a href="https://pixelfed.social/discover/tags/photography?src=hash" class="u-url hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#photography</a> <a href="https://pixelfed.social/discover/tags/collages?src=hash" class="u-url hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#collages</a> <a href="https://pixelfed.social/discover/tags/contemporaryartberlin?src=hash" class="u-url hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#contemporaryartberlin</a> <a href="https://pixelfed.social/discover/tags/udk?src=hash" class="u-url hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#udk</a>
Prism & Pen<p>We survived. We endured. And yet, many of us stayed silent. Some never came out at all. Others, like me, saw society’s unspoken judgment and chose to retreat — to the basements of our collective minds, where it felt safer.<br><a href="https://buff.ly/4h3RbzX" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="">buff.ly/4h3RbzX</span><span class="invisible"></span></a></p><p><a href="https://stranger.social/tags/LGBTQ" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQ</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/Transgender" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Transgender</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/ComingOut" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ComingOut</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/Visibility" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Visibility</span></a></p>
Wrenni | 🇨🇦 Musician<p>Oh! I'm on a podcast hosted by Brooklyn talking about my life as a queer person with trans children. I'm VERY candid, OMG 🥶 <a class="hashtag" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23podcast" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#podcast</a> <a class="hashtag" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23lgbtqia" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#lgbtqia</a> 🌈 <a class="hashtag" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23trans" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#trans</a> <a class="hashtag" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23pansexual" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#pansexual</a> <a class="hashtag" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23music" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#music</a> <a class="hashtag" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23comingout" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#comingout</a> <a class="hashtag" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23canadasky" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#canadasky</a> <a class="hashtag" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23humanrights" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#humanrights</a> 🌊💙🏳️‍⚧️🇨🇦<br><br><a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/5VB3rEe4OCwLxyTFndfbQ0?si=L8DmwTCIRQGRSIShucRUQg" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Wren</a></p>
Prism & Pen<p>There are millions of people hiding and denying their true sexual orientation and/or gender identity, millions wallowing in secret shame and alienation, all the while thinking that is the only way they can protect themselves or their loved ones. <br><a href="https://buff.ly/3CuSVUE" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="">buff.ly/3CuSVUE</span><span class="invisible"></span></a></p><p><a href="https://stranger.social/tags/LGBTQ" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQ</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/ComingOut" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ComingOut</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/Queer" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Queer</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/Pride" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Pride</span></a></p>
Alex Wolf 🐺🌍🏳️‍🌈<p>I have a work social media persona. My "worksona". It's who I represent as on LinkedIn and also on here.</p><p>I also have an authentic social media persona. It's another account on another server under an alias. An anonymous alias.</p><p>Why does this discrepancy exist? Because I talk about lived experiences, values, and positions on my second account that are stigmatized by society. Mental health. Neurodivergence. Gender. <a href="https://hachyderm.io/tags/FuckTheSystem" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>FuckTheSystem</span></a>.</p><p>My "worksona" is not me. It's a construct I shaped to maximize my chances by allowing me to harness conditional privilege: mainly that I'm _read_ as a white assumed cisgender, neurotypical, heterosexual, able-bodied man. But it's a mask. It means I'm keenly aware of the discrepancy in privilege that is granted based on how one is perceived.</p><p>I've been slowly incorporating more authenticity into my "worksona" but the sad truth is that there's still a wide chasm between who I really am around the people I trust and who I am in a professional context. There is literally only a single person who knows the full me and also knows me in real life. Everyone else gets a filtered version. Why? Stigma. Stigma that's assigned to layers of my identity I have no control over.</p><p>This is what privilege is about. Chances are that if your "public persona" aligns closely with your authentic self that you benefit from a whole lot of privilege (or that you're a <a href="https://hachyderm.io/tags/neuroqueer" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>neuroqueer</span></a> rebel; I see you and applaud you). And to the white men in my followers: this is what people talk about when they say you have privilege. The insidious truth is that it's _invisible_ to you because you probably don't know anything else. But there are many people around you who just _pretend_ to look and act like you.</p><p>I am one of the people who pretend.</p><p><a href="https://hachyderm.io/tags/privilege" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>privilege</span></a> <a href="https://hachyderm.io/tags/patriarchy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>patriarchy</span></a> <a href="https://hachyderm.io/tags/capitalism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>capitalism</span></a> <a href="https://hachyderm.io/tags/career" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>career</span></a> <a href="https://hachyderm.io/tags/work" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>work</span></a> <a href="https://hachyderm.io/tags/queer" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>queer</span></a> <a href="https://hachyderm.io/tags/neuroqueer" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>neuroqueer</span></a> <a href="https://hachyderm.io/tags/neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>neurodivergent</span></a> <a href="https://hachyderm.io/tags/trans" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>trans</span></a> <a href="https://hachyderm.io/tags/cis" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>cis</span></a> <a href="https://hachyderm.io/tags/oppression" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>oppression</span></a> <a href="https://hachyderm.io/tags/comingOut" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>comingOut</span></a></p>
Prism & Pen<p>During the first week of the 2024–25 school year, I nonchalantly came out to another teacher at <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/work" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>work</span></a>. When she said something about her sibling being <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/queer" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>queer</span></a>, and I almost flippantly worked my own sexuality into our conversation. “I’m <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/bisexual" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>bisexual</span></a>, and…” <br><a href="https://buff.ly/42xaEVI" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="">buff.ly/42xaEVI</span><span class="invisible"></span></a></p><p><a href="https://stranger.social/tags/LGBTQ" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQ</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/ComingOut" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ComingOut</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/Teachers" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Teachers</span></a> <a href="https://stranger.social/tags/Schools" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Schools</span></a></p>