Feeling feisty but also feeling really tired.
Fucking #AuDHD sometimes!
I will have to go back to #Tesla dealership here, to drop some - I fucking hate your bloody guts - sentiments on another evening.

Discombobulated by clocks changing nonsense AGAIN.

Gah !

[UK GMT to BST ?]

#Autistic #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD
#AuDHD

Autistics are not socially avoidant. People avoid discomfort. And people particularly avoid communication gaps.

Acceptance vs Resignation

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m2IAnyjEmKU&t=43s

I plan to travel to the UK this summer. Does anyone has combined autism / ADHD printouts that fit a sunflower lanyard? #ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyADHD #AuDHD

We don’t have to live in the world of “shoulds” or chase their “normal.”

Why is it always so stressful trying to make a complaint to a company/bank these days?

Well,
1) Sending me a message via online banking message about their branch closing in a town I haven't lived in for 14 years, even though they put my correct/current address at the top as if it were a posted letter .
2) All details of alternatives in the old town I've not lived in for over a decade, present!
3) All details of alternatives in the current town I live in & have done for over a decade, tumbleweed has more presence.

4) Online 24/7 help not working & hitting the Retry button just repeats the fail.
5) DDG to the rescue but could they(the bank) just give me a frelling postal address?
... Nope!
6) Find working online complaint page.
7) Yay! I should no in '...four days...' once I've completed this form.
8) Starts simple but then the Qs get more ambigious, my complaint might be to do with that option or it might not. If only there was a blue circle with one of these that I could hover the mouse over for more info.
9) Finally done > SUBMIT
10) Nope, I missed something? Then why the F did it not show me when I was at that part of the FRELLING form
11) Success Or was it?
It will take 1 - 8 weeks before they get can deal with the thing & that long for them to get back to me about it.
What happened to FOUR DAYS

Guess I best forget about it so I can have a nice surprise in 1 - 8 weeks... or not .

Found this great resource:
https://autisticgirlsnetwork.org/downloads/

You can download "passports" for free for yourself and/or someone you support who has autism. Generally geared towards girls, but this includes gender diverse individuals.

If you missed my free public workshop about making the “I’m autistic conversation go better, the recording and transcript are now available for everyone:

https://www.autismchrysalis.com/2025/03/14/practical-tips-for-disclosing-your-autism/

I just realized my preference for series over films and a few good friends over many acquaintances are two manifestations of the same tendency of my brain: to invest in long relationships and avoid investing in short ones.

I found a subtext in there, too: I'm slightly embarrassed to prefer TV over films, because snobbery says films are more erudite.

When you’re figuring out what to do for work, I would suggest picking something that has the potential to continue igniting your curiosity and your interest for a long period of time.

It might not be the thing that you are most passionate about in the world, but something that has enough depth and enough facets that will keep you interested for a long time so that you don’t feel trapped just doing the one thing, over and over and over.

I use 3 guidleines in my communication (mainly with NTs, but with sane people too),

#Honesty, #Courtesy, and #Clarity.

Do you have guidelines that you use/prefer?

#AskingAutistics
#ActuallyAutistic
#ADHD
#AskingADHD
#AuDHD

#Autists (and others too ) might find this consideration of #honesty interesting...

#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic
#ADHD #AuDHD

https://mas.to/@PatternChaser/114234417230736799

If you were considered “gifted” — especially if you have ADHD/AuDHD — do you tend to lapse into patronizing/mansplaining speech patterns (even with peers) if you aren’t careful?

I do sometimes, and I’m very sorry about that. I was the “know-it-all” for so long as a kid that those patterns were chiseled into the stone of my forming mind, and sometimes it takes conscious effort to avoid teacher/counselor/advisor mode.

My #AuDHD brain has a lot of knowledge and experience, but I can rarely tell where I read something or what happened when. When I have to make decisions or need to predict/prevent problems I have learned to involve a lot of my "gut feelings​". Which makes it hard to get some things greenlit by my managers. It's like providing the solution of a math problem without any steps that led to it. I can't provide the steps, I just know... And that can be frustrating even to me.

Being black and auDHD are the core part of my very being. It's not just an identity, it is a way of life. And I should NEVER apologize for being who I am and what I do whatsoever.